How do you overcome regrets? What would you have done if you had known all along that it was possible to get what you wanted?
You can get relevant.
You can get seen.
The trick is to not depend on what others are doing, how they feel, and what they think about you. You cannot undo what you did in the past, but you can rewrite a whole new chapter where your happy ending is guaranteed.
Julie Solomon, business coach, author of Get What You Want, and host of the chart-topping The Influencer Podcast, teaches us to shake off outdated ideas of what is possible and use our newfound beliefs to make anything we want happen. She gives us the confidence to love and accept ourselves so we can become unstoppable.
She shares the 3 As that bring you closer to the freedom you desire—Awareness, Acceptance, and Action. Her goal is for you to start experiencing the benefits of your own success and happiness.
Awareness is the identification that some problem or dysfunction exists in your life and needs to change.
Why do we have to go through that rock bottom moment? Is that a requirement for us to grow, heal, and find freedom?
Pain is a motivator.
You need a moment when you’re confronted with the stories and layered reasons and patterns that led you to that point. It’s a requirement for healing and growth because otherwise, you’ll continue doing what you’ve always done. But no one can blame you for that because it’s all you’ve known, and that’s how you survived in the world.
How do you get out of that place? You’ll need space where you won’t feel judged. Give yourself the grace to go easy on yourself in a state of awareness.
The hardest step is acceptance.
It’s that very uncomfortable place where we have to come to grips with the idea that this problem is a part of me, but it is not all of me. It doesn’t define me. It doesn’t mean that I’m a horrible person. It’s just one piece to the puzzle that no longer fits, so it needs to be removed.
The hardest thing to admit to ourselves is that part of us is the problem.
Once you are aware of the issue, acceptance of the responsibility empowers you to realize that if you have gotten yourself into this, you can also get yourself out of it. You’re not waiting on someone else to save you or fix you. Admitting to the problem’s existence means we give ourselves the power to change it then.
Acceptance really means “I am now choosing to create a new story.”
Action is the plan that you can implement to either recover, overcome, or restore whatever has been lost in the dysfunction.
We start taking action when we start working on our self-esteem, confidence, balance, peace, joy, and other positive things.
Do I want to be right, or do I want to be happy?
Sometimes, we can’t get both. “Am I okay with just being happy? What is the payoff for not being happy?”
How about you pause to become aware, accept your part to play in it, and then take action? When you stop lying to and hiding from yourself and others, you allow yourself to be seen, not just by yourself in the mirror but also by the world around you.
What do you not want?
What are the things you think are so dirty, gross, awful, and shameful that you wouldn’t want anyone else to know about you?
List those down, and then get honest with yourself about “Do I want to continue doing or believing these things?”
Acknowledging what you don’t want gives you clarity about what you actually want. Consequently, this gives you confidence because clarity creates confidence, not the other way around.
If we become clear about what we want, it becomes easy to say no to the things that will not help us get there.
It has to start with you.
People are afraid to be honest about what they really want because if they were to admit it, it would now require them to take ownership and accept responsibility.
Ignorance is bliss, but awareness is a bitch—if you don’t act on it, you’ll forever be at war with yourself. It has to start with you. Give yourself the courage to be aware that you have a problem, accept it for what it is, and then take action to change it.
If you want to learn more about effective ways of pitching yourself and putting your brand out there, visit Julie’s website at https://join.juliesolomon.net/getwhatyouwant/. Get bonuses when you order, plus a ticket to a free live virtual Get What You Want workshop this summer! Catch us next week for another inspiring episode of the Coachable podcast!